Mom says…. “That man needs Jesus.” And I suppose she was right. She thought that Jesus was the only thing that was going to save Bobby from his drunken state. She agreed to date him only if he sobered up, repented of his sins, asked the Lord Jesus to come into his heart and be “born again” into the Holy Spirit.
Bobby didn’t believe in Jesus. His Savior was a bottle of black berry brandy. He “quit” drinking more times than I can count. But alcohol had its hold on him, like a demon possessing his soul. The drunker he got the crazier he got. If he was not at the mill working, he was drinking. He would drink from the time he got out of work on Friday until he passed out at night. Then he would wake up Saturday morning and start drinking again. He would drink all day Saturday until he passed out, and on Sunday he would do the same. Then he would get up Monday morning and go to work at the mill, work all week, and when Friday came around, he would do it all over again. He would pass out where ever he happened to be, on the street, in the alley, in the hall way to our apartment. An empty bottle of black berry brandy always near by.
The drunker he got the more he wanted to see Mom. No matter what time it was, he would come barging in and keep us up for hours with his craziness. If you fight him, there is a price to pay and we found out the night Mom told him to “go away and leave us alone.” This made him crazy and he banged and kicked the door and finally broke the lock. I wake up from a deep sleep to sounds of commotion in the kitchen… and I run in trying to adjust my eyes to the light. There is a chain on the door, which stops him. He forces his hands through the opening to get the chain off and pushes and pushes on the door to try and break the chain. He is yelling crazy stuff and slurring his words. Mom is pushing all of her weight on the door. I am in shock and silently watching…. frozen by what I see. Mom sees me and yells to me to go and get some diaper pins. Confused, I do as she says and run and get the pins. Mom bends them so they are sticking out straight. She hands one to me and then I watch as she jabs his hands really hard with the pin each time he puts them through the opening. I follow her lead and do the same…. jabbing the best I could with my little hands…. I miss a few times and then with all my might I jab him and the pin sticks in and I see a speckle of blood come out of his hand. I feel sick to my stomach. Mom is better at this than I am. She sticks him every time.
There is a bolt and if we can get his hands out and shut the door we can bolt it. I am terrified and feel like I was in someone else’s body. I hated to do it. It feels awful jabbing those pins in his hands.
Just when the pins seem to not be working…. his hands are gone and we close the door and bolt it. Mom and I sit on the floor for a few minutes, breathing deeply and listening to him in the hallway, banging on the door and yelling. He is so drunk that his words are barely understandable. He yells and bangs and kicks the door as we sit silent. Finally he stumbles down the hall and outside.
Mom tucks me into bed and I lie awake for some time, too afraid to fall back asleep. I am sure that I can still hear him yelling in the distance. I keep thinking that he will come back and get inside this time. Later that night, I feel Mom getting into bed with me. She whispers “I’m sorry to wake you, but I need to sleep with you.” When I ask her “why”…. she tells me that “Bobby threw a rock through the bedroom window and it is too cold to sleep there.” I think I hear her crying as she falls asleep. It still feels good to have her next to me.
I have my first nightmare about Bobby that night. I dream that he comes into the house and stomps right through the apartment into my bedroom and stands right next to my bed looking down at me. I wake with a gasp. Terror rips through my body. It is pitch dark and it takes a few moments for me to realize that he is not really there, that it is only a nightmare. I can hear Mom breathing softly and the gentle stirs of my baby sister in her crib. This time it is me who is crying myself to sleep. Mom does not hear me.
Alcoholism takes and takes and takes. It never gives. It takes away loving moments and it steals all of your innocence. It takes away your heart song, your life song…… the essence of who you are. It forces you to do things that you hate to do…like jab pins into violent hands.